1. When I feel most loved, it’s when my partner:

A. Tells me something encouraging B. Helps me with something important C. Gives me a thoughtful gift D. Spends uninterrupted time with me E. Hugs or cuddles me

2. If my partner had only one way to show love today, I’d choose:

A. A heartfelt compliment B. Doing a task I’ve been stressing about C. A surprise present D. A deep conversation E. Holding hands or physical closeness

3. I feel most appreciated when my partner:

A. Says they’re proud of me B. Supports me by doing something C. Surprises me with something meaningful D. Gives me their full attention E. Touches me affectionately

4. During an argument, what makes me feel safer or more connected?

A. Hearing calm, reassuring words B. When they show effort to fix the issue C. A peace offering or thoughtful gesture D. Sitting together and talking it through E. A comforting touch

5. On a difficult day, I want my partner to:

A. Tell me they’re here for me B. Take a task off my plate C. Bring me something small that makes me smile D. Just be with me E. Give me a long hug

6. I value it most when my partner:

A. Compliments my character B. Helps organise my day C. Gives me something sentimental D. Spends free time with me E. Massages, hugs, or touches me

7. When my partner says “I love you,” I:

A. Melt — words mean everything to me B. Appreciate it, but I prefer actions C. Love when it’s paired with a meaningful gift D. Want them to say it while spending time with me E. Prefer it while being physically close

8. I feel disconnected when my partner:

A. Doesn’t express appreciation B. Doesn’t help out C. Doesn’t give small gestures or gifts D. Isn’t present or attentive E. Isn’t physically affectionate

9. I feel supported when my partner:

A. Notices and praises my effort B. Handles something I’m overwhelmed with C. Surprises me with something thoughtful D. Gives me their full attention E. Holds or cuddles me

10. If we were long-distance, the hardest part would be:

A. Not hearing affirming words B. Not having them here to help C. Not receiving thoughtful surprises D. Not spending actual time together E. Not being able to touch them

11. My favourite way to celebrate something is:

A. Hearing heartfelt recognition B. Someone doing something kind for me C. Receiving a meaningful gift D. Spending quality time together E. Enjoying close physical affection

12. What hurts me the most?

A. Criticism or harsh words B. Feeling unsupported or burdened C. When gifts or gestures are missed on meaningful days D. Feeling ignored or not listened to E. Lack of affection

13. My ideal Saturday with my partner includes:

A. Encouraging conversations B. Helping each other with tasks C. Exchanging small gifts D. Doing something together E. Closeness — cuddles, kisses, intimacy

14. I show love to others by:

A. Complimenting and encouraging B. Helping or fixing things C. Giving thoughtful gifts D. Spending time with them E. Being physically affectionate

15. I notice I'm happiest when my partner:

A. Speaks kindly B. Takes initiative C. Gives surprises D. Plans time together E. Shows physical affection

16. I feel loved when my partner:

A. Expresses gratitude B. Supports me with practical things C. Gives something meaningful D. Sets aside time just for me E. Touches me affectionately

17. I feel insecure when:

A. They don’t say positive things B. I have to do everything alone C. They don’t give any tokens of love D. They’re emotionally or physically distant E. Physical affection is missing

18. My partner could hurt me most by:

A. Using harsh words B. Neglecting my needs C. Ignoring special occasions D. Not prioritising me E. Withholding affection

19. What feels most romantic to me?

A. Love letters or sweet words B. Acts of service C. Receiving a thoughtful present D. Quality time experiences E. Physical intimacy

20. When reconnecting after time apart, I want:

A. Loving words B. Help settling back in C. A meaningful gift D. Deep conversation or shared activity E. A big hug or closeness

21. In a future relationship, I hope my partner naturally:

A. Expresses love verbally B. Helps with life tasks C. Gives thoughtful gifts D. Prioritises time together E. Is physically affectionate

22. I get emotional when my partner:

A. Says something heartfelt B. Does something selfless for me C. Gives me something meaningful D. Makes time for me E. Shows deep physical affection

23. When my partner is proud of me, I want them to:

A. Tell me B. Show it through support C. Give a symbolic gift D. Spend celebrating time with me E. Show affectionate closeness

24. If my partner forgot Valentine’s Day, I’d be upset because:

A. They didn’t say anything special B. They didn’t make an effort C. They didn’t give me something meaningful D. They didn’t create a moment together E. They didn’t show physical affection

25. A perfect evening together would be:

A. Deep talks and affirmations B. Partner taking care of something for me C. Receiving something thoughtful D. Cooking dinner and being present together E. Cuddling on the couch

Mind Menda Love Language Assessment